When I was a child and I wouldn’t finish my meal they told me often: "Finish your food if you don’t want the bogeyman to come and get you."
This form of terrorizing small children to make them do things has its version in many countries, but the biggest fear of a child is losing love.
And that fear of losing the affection and love made me a quiet and obedient girl. Well, being quiet is part of my character in general, be obedient, not that much.
Therefore fear became a faithful friend, it followed me through the other stages of life and those inner fears were reflected in some facts of my life, like when those around you want to convince you not to do something for fear to failure.
Fear is the fear of change
And it is a contagious disease, so they actually advise you to do so and so because they are afraid themselves, especially afraid of losing comfort and afraid of facing any changes to never venture out of established routines.
Fear is a lie
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The media knows very well how to feed you with ideas of being afraid of yourself and your body (disease), fear of not receiving the retirement pay (poverty), fear of war, of violence ..
But the biggest lie is to fear yourself, when we said that we are afraid and we decided not to listen to ourselves and see what we really need, to see if our life is in line with our deeper desires.
And we prefer to take refuge in our everyday work, in compulsive shopping, stimulants and whatever.
Fear is a sign
And with all this, fear has a purpose and has a message: we are saying that all actions or thoughts that come from fear are not accurate and that something has to change.
Take full responsibility
It is the only answer. You know that the bogeyman is an invention, you know that war and violence exist, but how many real murders have you seen around you?
You know that there are people living on less than you need, but you are rich compared to them.
You know that there are always somebody who is wrong at work and someone could do it better: that someone is you.
If you change jobs or get out of your work to work for yourself, what could happen? Well, you would see that it is you who decides what to do with your life and you have a great opportunity to improve things.
Take a new attitude
What if you change your attitude? Suppose you meet a new friend, you feel good in his or her company, and inspires you when you hear him/her you think that things are going to work out for you.
This friend helps you to look at yourself directly with all the tenderness and sincerity of the world to see what you have to change, to comfort you and support you.
You would not take a step without consulting with this friend and since you’ve got this new friendship you have been slowly forgetting fear, that old faithful friend.
And also your outer world is changing, reflecting a new attitude in your relationship with others, because your new friend told you watch less TV and movies and look for inspirational readings, for the contact with nature.
And you dare to create your world, then you have every right to change your reality and it is a pleasure.
You might guess the name of your new friend now: trust. And to have it always with you is as easy as making the right choice when talking to yourself.
If we all work to create a new oasis the desert will disappear .
How are your conversations?
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